Have you come here to feel happy, healthy, calm and fit?
Connected to yourself and to others?
To feel comfortable (amazing!) in your own skin?
To appreciate - even love - your body and all it does for you?
To go through your life with confidence, pride, and a sense of empowerment?
To finally make peace with food, your body, your relationships.... yourself?
If yes, you are in the right place my friend, and I’m so glad you’re here.
In my life, I wear many hats. Just like you.
I am a strong, warm, and empathetic woman. A mother of 4 incredible children and a sweet little pup called Coco. I am a wife, a sister, and a daughter. A maker of dinner and a (slightly compulsive) cleaner of the house. A lover of books, afternoon naps, and country music. A driver of carpools. A small business owner. A dedicated friend, a passionate yogi, and a holistic health and wellness coach.
I have a B.A. in Sociology from Iona College and an M.A. in psychology from Columbia University's Teacher's College. My doctoral degree is in Health Education from Columbia as well, and was hard-earned over the course of many years while raising my children, moving to the burbs, and starting a small business.
I am thrilled to harness my 40+ years of life experience and (what feels like 1,000 years of!) formal education to help you create the life of your dreams.
Not of my dreams. Or your friend’s dreams.
Do you know what that life looks like?
When you know where you’re going it’s so much easier to get there.
I'll let you in on a little secret....
Most of us think that happiness, pleasure, and joy come from external sources:
Physical appearance: "Once I lose these last 5 lbs, then I'll be happy, have confidence, try that class, switch jobs, start dating again... If I didn't have all this cellulite then I could wear a bathing suit to the beach... I would feel beautiful if I didn't have all these wrinkles; my hair was straighter/curlier/thicker/longer/less frizzy; my body was different/thinner/stronger/healthier; my skin was younger/smoother/clearer etc..."
Career: "Once I get that promotion, then I'll feel confident at the office... Once I get that next credential/degree, then I'll feel worthy.... If I had that job/boss/office space, then I would actually enjoy going to work every day..."
Relationships: "If only my children, partner, brother, sister, parents, friends, co-workers.... behaved differently (i.e. the way I want them to behave!), then I would be happy/at ease/relaxed/accepting..."
Quality and Quantity of Possessions: "This house is too big/small/messy, and it's making me crazy... If I had nicer clothes then I would feel more confident... I would be so happy if I had that purse/car/experience/body/vacation...."
Food, Alcohol, Sex, Spending, Consuming: "A glass of wine is the only way I can unwind from a stressful day at work.... Ice cream helps me feel better when I'm sad/lonely/depressed.... I feel important when I buy something that costs a lot of money... I can only relax/let loose/be myself at the party if I have a few cocktails....."
We rely on these things to make us feel good/happy/at ease within ourselves, and when they don't (because they can't!), we end up disappointed and confused.
Where did we go wrong?
Relying on things outside of yourself to magically bring you happiness NEVER works.
These feelings come from within.
You create them with your thoughts.
The good news? Thoughts are just sentences in your head. You control them.
And because you control your thoughts, you are in control your life.
Happiness, confidence, gratitude, hope, pride, success, body-positivity, self-compassion, acceptance, and inner calm are all well within your reach.
Yes, it takes work.
But it's soooo worth it.
I can show you how to get there.
No, it's not all roses all the time.
And guess what... that's ok.
Life is not meant to be perfect all the time.
We are meant to experience the full range of human emotions.
The good, the bad and the ugly.
Like you, I've had many ups and downs in my life.
I've known true happiness, and the beauty, warmth and safety of unconditional love. Felt deeply connected to myself and to those around me. Experienced the sense of true accomplishment that comes only from hard work and dedication. I've been open, free and accepting. I've been in touch with my truest self.
I've also been through financially trying times (hello NYC apartment life in your 20's!). I've been lonely, heartbroken, confused, and hurt. I've been embarrassed by my behavior and ashamed of things I've done. I have turned to food and alcohol, overeating and overdrinking as a way to block out unwanted thoughts and to quiet feelings I didn't understand. Also managed to get the flip-side in, undereating and overexercising in an effort to control how people perceived me and my body.
I've been untrue to myself, trying on different personalities in order to be accepted and liked (I don't need to tell you how that turned out!). I have been caught up in bad habits and toxic relationships. I've judged myself (soooo) harshly and been my own worst enemy. I've judged others unfairly and without reason. I've felt unworthy of praise, love, and kindness. I've compared myself to others and (of course) fell woefully short. I've said horribly critical things to myself - things I would NEVER even imagine to think about another human being.
I've had moments when I thought I might never feel happy, confident, at peace, or fulfilled.
And, it's taken me years (and years....) to learn this one simple truth:
I am in charge of how I move through this life.
Struggling against the reality of what is, is a direct route to suffering, heartache, and pain.
I can't change the way people around me think or behave, I have no control over the past or the future; but I can change my thoughts about what is.
I can observe my thoughts and choose what to think on purpose. With intention.
This makes all the difference.
You too can manage your mind.
And when you manage your mind, you manage your emotions and actions, creating the results you want in your life.
That's where all of your power lies.
Why are we so quick to give it away?
To the world around us. To the actions (and/or inactions...) of friends, family, spouses, co-workers, our children and people we date, past events, possessions, our family tree, alcohol, drugs, sex, social media, food, shopping....
Join me and see how you can take back your power and intentionally create the life you really desire.
One last thing...
You know that song from the Greatest Showman, This is Me? A little cheesy? Maybe. But you know what, I completely LOVE that song. If I had a theme song for this moment in my life, that would be it.
I am unapologetically... me. Imperfect. Learning. Trying. Struggling. Hard-working. Making mistakes. Showing up for myself. Being there for others. Winning. Losing. An ambassador of hope, love, and endless self-compassion. A source of support and encouragement on your health and wellness journey. An ally to hold you accountable, and your greatest cheerleader.
I hope that when we work together you find your theme song. The words that when spoken aloud or silently whispered make your heart beat faster with the knowledge that you are finally LIVING.
Living a life that is full of hope, happiness, awareness, discomfort, possibility, strength, struggle, insecurity, acceptance, joy, and everything in between. This life is not only possible... it's yours for the taking.
This is your time to shine.